Planning a wedding is hard work, and anyone who tells you otherwise is being a little less than truthful. Since time immemorial, eager brides and grooms everywhere have spent hours agonising over lists, brochures and – in more recent times – websites, attending to the details right up until the very last moment.
Sometimes, though, despite the best-laid plans of mice, men and the occasional bridezilla, things do go awry. Something gets missed off a list, family plans change (often through no fault of anybody’s), and suddenly the happy couple-to-be don’t have as much time as they thought to get things organised. Snap decisions ensue about suppliers and venues. Quick compromises have to be made to make sure that the day can still go ahead, even if in a slightly different way than originally imagined.
For smaller elements of the preparations this isn’t a problem, but when it affects major aspects of your big day, it can really cause ructions. And if it seems like you’ve left it too late to organise the wedding flowers – the evocative, swoon-inducing, photograph-begging, attention-grabbing wedding flowers – then you’re in trouble. Nobody wants to look family, friends and gossip magazine photographers in the eye and say “we left it too late to book the wedding flowers, so a friend of one of my workmates had to do them – we were sure we wouldn’t get a proper florist at short notice”. The crushing indignity, the shame, the… complete lack of any need to worry, actually.
There are more couples in this situation than you might think. Planning a wedding is hugely stressful, and ironically, the drive not to become known as That Difficult Couple can often make lovebirds more timid about getting things done. They don’t like to make a fuss, so they spend all their time apologising in a terribly British way, and hoping someone will take the hint about what they want. But they don’t actually ask if someone can help; and the pressure of arranging their wedding only makes them worse.
The fact is, if you’re running behind schedule and are worried that your favourite florist won’t be able to fit you in at short notice, think for a moment – have you actually asked them? Late availability isn’t unknown in the world of wedding suppliers, and every florist will want to help you if they can. We all take a huge pride in our work; knowing that our arrangements will be helping to create the atmosphere on a day full of love and beauty gives us a genuine glow, and it’s not something we take lightly.
So my message to all couples is not to worry if plans have gone a little askew. If you have a favourite florist who you’d like to engage for your wedding flowers, simply ask them. You might well get a pleasant surprise, and there’s nothing quite like the satisfaction of ticking something off your to-do list – particularly when that list is for the biggest day of your life!